Humans are social beings and we interact with people every day of our lives. Often, our happiness depends on how many interactions with each person was. This is true especially of those we care for example in close friendship and in marriage. However, because we deal with every personality is unique and there is a challenge itself, managing a myriad of relationships requires us to continue to oversee the process and impact of our interactions so that we continue to gain knowledge, understanding and experience in developing positive relationships that way.

I realize that for better management of relationships, we must be assertive and honest in sharing our ideas, feelings and concerns. However, this needs to be done in a way that does not provoke the other party, but not the respect and encourage both parties to listen to one another. A good way to do this is through communication techniques, “I” Message.

In “I” messages, which made a statement about ourselves, how we feel and we are concerned, and what action the other party that has caused concern. “You” messages focus on other people and will usually lead the other party to become defensive unless “you” is the message that positive statements from other people. For example, a husband or wife is waiting to return to the pair and when the pair return, he will be greeted by this: “You always come home late, why you can not go back earlier?” This “You” message leads to the defect pair and feel attacked and communication following may not be a one amiable. In conflict situations, “You” messages focus on the attacks of others. As a result, the main issues to motivate the side. Conversely, in this same scenario, an “I” message will look like this: “I feel a little lonely while waiting for you to come home. I worry that you are often home late and I was quite disappointed when you’re wondering, ‘will return to home . “In this statement, therefore, the speaker shares his feelings and concerns. Communication from the obvious concern is a good beginning for both parties to work for what can be done about this.

“I” messages focus on effective because the problem or concern, and not on others. The division of the speaker can also cause a feeling more confident in the relationship such as this will show the speaker is willing to see in himself and take responsibility, or his feelings.

In fact, generally in most interactions, in my opinion is that the use of “I” messages is always superior to “you” message and a more respectful way to communicate. So, even when expressing positive feelings, the “you” message: “You look good in this dress”, can be improved by the “I” message: “I’m very happy to see you. I remember all the fun we used to have. You look good. “

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